Eight months from today I will turn forty. How will I spend this lead up to an arbitrarily-chosen milestone?

In East Asia I would already be considered forty years old.

10 Make-or-Break Career Moments

I came across Casey Hawley’s 10 Make-or-Break Career Moments the other day. I’ve never had a career mentor to help me navigate the sometimes treacherous straits of earning, and this book promised to take up the slack.

It’s divided into ten chapters, each of which refers to one of the titular make-or-break moments, plus a conclusion which offers up a game plan for real life communication with six models for your future success.

The opening chapters are about how to make the most of the first time you meet a business contact or job interviewer. These can be boiled down to: be your best, most professional, outgoing self.

Next, Hawley focuses on what to do when you are offered a job, basically to respond with enthusiasm while simultaneously asking for a day or two to review the offer before formally committing.

The chapter on how to make the most of a performance review includes advice on how to ask for a raise.

I like the encouragement about when you meet your new colleagues: “Every person, group, or company you ever join gives you a clean slate – a wonderful opportunity to improve yourself over your past performance.”

There is a chapter devoted to a subject not everyone will have to deal with: what to do when you are fired.  Hawley recommends resisting the urge to burn bridges and instead to make sure you leave on good terms, including leaving things in good shape for your successor.  Also important is to get answers to nuts-and-bolts questions like when your health insurance coverage ends, and whether you are eligible to be rehired.  Hawley echoes this advice in the chapter on resigning.

In the chapter on ethics, Hawley writes, “One of the most challenging and defining moments in a career arises when you are asked to do something that is not strictly aligned with company policy – or even with your own code of conduct.”  She goes on to discuss the dicy balancing act of maintaining loyalty at your current job while looking for a new one.

When it comes to dealing with conflict, Hawley suggests responding according to the personality type of the person you are dealing with, and she provides a handy chart to help delineate the pros and cons of four types of people: the straight arrow, the emotionally open, the analytical, and the creative idea person.

The chapter on being recognized for excellence highlighted one of my own personal shortcomings as a worker: being good at touting your contributions to your workplace.  Unfortunately the chapter presupposes that the reader is adept at this skill, and offers advice on how to deal with people who are less so when they are overlooked at work.

In the conclusion, Hawley spotlights six successful people as models of professionals who have made it. She includes the founders of Twitter and of Spanx, as well as President Barack Obama, and she relates their strengths to behaviors she advocates in the previous ten chapters.  I love a success story, so I found this part to be the most fun, even if I’m always a little skeptical of stories like these.

Because while, according to Hawley’s personality grid,  I am a creative idea person, (positive feature: innovative; potential problem: easily bores) I am also analytical (positive feature: trustworthy; potential problem: caught up in details instead of main points).

The Dictator

Sacha Baron Cohen’s latest movie is a departure from his earlier work in that it is a scripted comedy. I am a big fan of his earlier no-holds-barred productions, where he incorporated interactions with unsuspecting dupes into his fictionalized world, and I worried a more traditionally made film would pale in comparison.

Thankfully, The Dictator is a brilliantly executed satire.  Sacha Baron Cohen’s Admiral General Aladeen is hilarious, and the supporting roles of Zoey and Nadal, played by Anna Farris and Jason Mantzoukas respectively, are deftly played.

I was especially won over by the rousing speech Aladeen gives before the United Nations, where the writers espouse some thinly-veiled Occupy Wall Street-type rhetoric by putting it in the mouth of the dictator.

The Dictator had me laughing at “terrorist misunderstanding” jokes. Out loud. By myself at the movies. It is super funny. Go see it now. Or suffer the repercussions.

Trunk Show

I will be selling my handcrafted baubles at By Brooklyn today from 12-5. I hardly ever sell in person these days, so it’s a rare opportunity to have a piece altered on the spot, or to glimpse my hermit self outside of my comfort zone at home.

If you can’t make it or if you are also a hermit, fear not: you can still shop here and here and here.  But then you won’t get it in time for Mother’s Day, if that’s your aim.

Judd Apatow is making a movie with the number 40 in the title

This is Forty just may have to be the Christmas 2012 movie because of its timing. I’ve only seen the trailer, which sets up the premise that Leslie Mann, reprising her role from Knocked Up, has been lying about her age for years and is about to for real turn 40. She freaks and makes a list of things she and her husband Paul Rudd need to do better now that they’re at this landmark age.

Her character should read this article about how to change your life. Or take a swim in the scenic Gowanus Canal, pictured above. That should be good for perspective.

Friends with Kids

It’s not just a funny movie. Sometimes your rad friends have rad kids and it’s all cool and stuff.

Sometimes your friends who are already incredibly self-centered and inconsiderate spawn and become themselves only more so. So you stop hanging out with them. Then you run into them in YOUR neighborhood and it is very awkward. Worse than running into an ex.

But I’m not allowed to talk about that.

Top Ten Movies I saw in 2006

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It is highly unlikely that I will see another movie in the 2006 calendar year. And even if I do, how likely am I to see something that will break into the top 10? Not so very. It hasn’t been a great year for movies. There are at least two on the list that I saw in 2006 but were made long before.

With that in mind, here is my my current Top Ten:

10. Nacho Libre

9. The Devil Wears Prada

8. Word Play

7. Inside Man

6. Tsotsi

5. The Confederate States of America

4. The Fallen Idol

3. Dave Chappelle’s Block Party

2. Little Miss Sunshine

1. The Departed